When the solu­ti­on beco­mes the pro­blem…

Sharing our moti­va­ti­on.” Debo­rah e.V.

Our gui­ding princi­ples

Women and men who have gone through the expe­ri­ence of having an abor­ti­on – whe­ther it be their own or that of their part­ner or clo­se fri­end – have united to form the orga­ni­za­ti­on Debo­rah e.V. This com­mon expe­ri­ence has had its effect on them and bands them tog­e­ther.

(1) Pream­ble

What sustains, moti­va­tes and unites us.

The ter­mi­na­ti­on of pregnan­cy can affect peop­le dif­fer­ent­ly: Some say they feel relie­ved, perhaps even freed from a bur­den. Others are con­vin­ced that they have made the best decisi­on. Howe­ver, the­re are men and women who feel that, loo­king back, they have made the wrong decisi­on. For the­se peop­le the expe­ri­ence of the abor­ti­on is ever-pre­sent and their thoughts con­ti­nu­al­ly cir­cle around the lost child. We want to stand by tho­se who feel they have found no under­stan­ding for their sor­row, even been left alo­ne with it. They can express this sor­row in our pre­sence and due to our expe­ri­ence, we can help them to bear it. In addi­ti­on to this we offer sup­port to tho­se reco­vering from pain and loss in the form of berea­ve­ment coun­sel­ling key­ed to the indi­vi­du­al. Final­ly, it is also one of our objec­tives to make sure that in future pregnan­cy coun­se­ling qui­te clear­ly points out the­se pos­si­ble psy­cho­so­ma­tic after­ef­fec­ts.

(2) Spi­rit and Pur­po­se

How do we put the­se goals into prac­tice?

We belie­ve that our expe­ri­ence enab­les us to con­front indi­vi­du­als in a simi­lar situa­ti­on with true empa­thy and a spe­cial under­stan­ding. The core area of our activi­ties lies in a dia­lo­gue with indi­vi­du­als about our com­mon expe­ri­ence and coun­se­ling after a ter­mi­na­ti­on of pregnan­cy. Here the main aspect con­cerns the con­se­quen­ces that can deve­lop after an abor­ti­on. We enab­le indi­vi­du­als to ack­now­ledge a loss and to mourn that loss. Many peop­le are in need of such accom­pany­ing encoun­ters, but the fact is that they are rare­ly avail­ab­le. Ano­t­her core area con­sists of infor­ma­ti­on from the various pro­fes­sio­nal sources invol­ved on the high­ly diver­si­fied effec­ts resul­ting from an abor­ti­on. This inclu­des pro­fes­sio­nals invol­ved in fol­low-up care. It is equal­ly important for us to arou­se society’s awa­reness for this com­plex topic.

(3) Addres­sees

Who do we want to reach?

Our ser­vices are desi­gned for reci­pi­ents who have been affec­ted diver­se­ly.

a. direct effect – women and men who have expe­ri­en­ced an abor­ti­on them­sel­ves or that of their part­ner.
b. indi­rect effect – on tho­se in our soci­al sur­roun­dings

  • fami­ly mem­bers
  • fri­ends
  • col­leagues

c. Tho­se peop­le affec­ted who

  • suf­fer from inde­fi­ni­te sym­ptoms, which they con­si­der to be lin­ked to fate and the­re­fo­re are inca­pa­ble of being chan­ged and, moreo­ver, which they see as having no con­nec­tion to an abor­ti­on they have expe­ri­en­ced.
  • suf­fer from an ill­ness which is being trea­ted by a doc­tor and neit­her they nor their rela­ti­ves reco­gni­ze that the main cau­se of this ill­ness may be an abor­ti­on.

d. indi­vi­du­als

  • suf­fe­ring from a sub-acu­te to chro­nic psy­cho­so­ma­tic ailment which can­not be defi­ned and which, in the end, is the result of an unre­sol­ved abor­ti­on, which has not been dealt with.
  • with a psy­cho­so­ma­tic ailment wher­e­by no con­nec­tion is made to a past abor­ti­on and neit­her doc­tor nor pati­ent see this con­nec­tion.

e. experts from various pro­fes­sio­nal fields such as

  • doc­tors with know­ledge of dif­fe­rent spe­cia­list fields inclu­ding pre­na­tal dia­gno­sis and medi­cal gene­tics
  • coun­selors for pregnan­cy con­flict situa­ti­ons
  • psy­cho­lo­gists / reli­gious or spi­ri­tu­al advi­sors / berea­ve­ment coun­sellors / soci­al workers
  • mid­wi­ves / nur­sing staff and careta­kers
  • tea­chers

f. socie­ty

  • poli­tics
  • various medi­cal boards or com­mit­tees
  • ethics review com­mit­tees
  • media
  • other mul­ti­pli­ca­tors

(4) Over­view of our ser­vices

What do we offer?

  • spi­ri­tu­al sup­port for the per­sons affec­ted, berea­ve­ment coun­sel­ling
  • group mee­tings for per­sons affec­ted
  • work in schools
  • men­to­ring for pro­fes­sio­nal groups who are invol­ved in a ter­mi­na­ti­on of pregnan­cy in any way
  • informing pro­fes­sio­nal experts
  • pre­na­tal dia­gno­sis
  • sup­port and media­cy in the case of a posi­ti­ve indi­ca­ti­on

We offer: Pri­va­te coun­sel­ling ses­si­ons as well as dis­cus­sion groups for indi­vi­du­als affec­ted. Pro­fes­sio­nal groups who are in any way invol­ved in the pregnan­cy ter­mi­na­ti­on pro­cess can meet and dis­cuss this pro­cess with us on a
one-to-one basis or in small groups. With lec­tures we offer infor­ma­ti­on and cla­ri­fi­ca­ti­on to school groups or expert groups about the fol­low-up effec­ts of an abor­ti­on. In case of an abnor­mal or ques­tion­ab­le indi­ca­ti­on, we arran­ge con­tac­ts in the field of pre­na­tal dia­gno­sis and pro­vi­de other sources of infor­ma­ti­on.

(5) Cul­tu­re, com­mu­ni­ca­ti­on, values

What does this mean? We start with our­sel­ves!

We work in teams and we value our dif­fe­rent walks of life and realms of expe­ri­ence. We show respect for each other and con­front each other open­ly and wit­hout pre­ju­di­ce. We cul­ti­va­te a trust­worthy and dis­creet hand­ling of per­so­nal infor­ma­ti­on. Our work method demands relia­bi­li­ty and a con­ti­nu­al flow of com­mu­ni­ca­ti­on. Our work tog­e­ther requi­res us to under­stand that the over­lap­ping of bor­ders is necessa­ry. We are tole­rant towards dif­fe­ring opi­ni­ons and tre­at each other and all indi­vi­du­als we deal with in a fair way. Our dealings with each other rely on the princi­ples of free­dom of belief and tole­ran­ce. The basis for our dealings with one ano­t­her is our Chris­ti­an sen­se of values and way of life. Dif­fe­ring view­points should be open­ly expres­sed and sub­ject to dis­cus­sion. We regu­lar­ly par­ti­ci­pa­te in fur­ther-edu­ca­ti­on ses­si­ons. Our activi­ties are based on eco­no­mi­c­al and eco­lo­gi­cal princi­ples.

Con­clu­ding state­ment

Per­sons, who have deci­ded to deal with the the­me “abor­ti­on” (with all its impli­ca­ti­ons), are no lon­ger left alo­ne. They can find dis­cus­sion part­ners, infor­ma­ti­on and sup­port at Debo­rah e.V. While our orga­ni­za­ti­on con­ti­nu­al­ly seeks to ori­ent its­elf towards the new and chan­ging chal­len­ges for our socie­ty, this over­all con­cept ser­ves as a foun­da­ti­on for the con­ti­nui­ty of our work.

Addi­tio­nal infor­ma­ti­ons and appoint­ment arran­ge­ments

If you are inte­rested in one of the above offers, plea­se con­tact us.

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